Every day, you open the closet, analyze it for a few seconds, and choose something. Do you know this choice is not accidental!? Even if you have two pieces in the closet, the fact that you choose one of them says something about your state of mind, about your interests and your intentions, or says something about your wishes. Do you know that in any relationship you need five seconds to make a first impression, to put a label to the person in front of you!? Do you know that the biggest impact on the formation of this first impression is the appearance of the other, implicitly their clothing!? Of course, five seconds is all the others need to put a label on you, and that determines your success or failure, acceptance or rejection by others.
People have always interpreted the messages conveys by clothing, these being the expressions of unconscious language. On a conscious level, we see someone and quickly draw the conclusion "I like him/her!" Or "I do not like him/her", "Something does not make me trust him/her!", but the unconscious keeps the reasons that led us to these extremely important conclusions, because it influences our reactions, actions. Knowing the clothes language, we bring to conscious what the unconscious is currently in control of, and "I like him/her!" is filled in with "I like him/her because ..." and "I do not like him/her because ...". This "because ..." is the one that gives us all the necessary information that we can use to understand others, to accept them in order to build effective relationships with them. Also, knowing the clothing language helps us to know ourselves, to control, to adapt easily, and therefore, can help us to make the others accept us, trust us, be open and willing to get involved in our actions.
During a class, a student asked me: do we really need to know all these things? Isn’t it tiring to know what each color means, what does the short, the long, the medium skirt mean or the naked back or the deep neckline dress? If we know all of this, don’t we get to manipulate the others? Is it moral to do that? My answer is simple: knowing these things helps us. It means that we are evolving, that we use our resources, our knowledge to get the most out of everything we want or do. The knowledge of the clothing language guarantees the implementation of the definition of intelligence: minimal effort, maximum efficiency. The more we know, the less our effort is, being perceived as natural, common, and the efficiency is maximum and reflected in the quality of our relationships, in the quality of our actions, in our state of well-being, personal satisfaction. If it is moral or immoral to know these things!? It depends on how each one chooses to use the information. If I choose to influence the reactions of the others, to develop happy relationships, to be efficient, there is clearly no trace of immorality in my approach. If I want to get the other to do something for my benefit, but against him, if I misinterpret reality, my intentions, then the immoral character is obvious.
This book teaches you to be an elegant person, starting from the premise that elegance is not given by clothes, but by how you know how to value your clothes. The elegance is in your mind, in your soul, in your feelings, and your clothes, the ones you choose, do nothing but mirror this elegance.
I don’t teach you what to wear and what not to wear, but I tell you what you are passing through clothing and how you can use it. If you just want to look great, in these pages you will not find solutions. If you want to feel great, then this book is exactly what you need! And I guarantee that if you feel wonderful, you will look great!
„ Attention! Clothes talk! Clothing – dimension of non-verbal communication” – Edu Plus