That’s it! I finally published the book called “Attention! Clothes talk!”, a treaty in which I dared to approach clothing as a tool for nonverbal communication, a genuine tool for personal and relational knowledge and self-knowledge.
I intended to show that clothes speak about Us by making visible the emotional states that dominate us, our intentions, the state of balance or imbalance in which we find ourselves, defining elements of our personality. The clothes also speak about the Others, leaving them exposed and authentic in front of us. Knowing the language of clothes means having access to Ourselves, to our unconscious, to Others, to what is beyond what they say, show and do!
I approached clothing from a scientific perspective, talking about colours and their impact, psycho-anatomical meanings, about what the exposure or coverage of a body part conveys, about the association of clothing with personal attractiveness and magnetism, about the relational and social influence of clothing as a form of communication. Thus, I managed to illustrate the role of clothing in deciphering ourselves and others.
"Pay attention! Clothes speak!” is a wise book, a simple knowledge tool. The novelty of the topic did not strike and shock but it managed to arouse curiosity and the many and varied feedback was surprising.
One question caught my attention, namely: "Isn't it dangerous to know so much about ourselves and others?". The question may reflect the simple curiosity of some persons or others’ fear of knowing, understanding and going beyond the comfort zone.
No form of knowledge is dangerous! Knowing how to make a bomb can turn you into a murderer or a saviour. Knowing how to "decipher" people can turn you into a petty manipulator or a perfect person, able to build their happiness and contribute to the happiness of those around them. The science of "deciphering" people in all its forms helps to defuse people who risk exploding and contaminating others with their fears, sorrows and destructive judgments.
It is NOT knowledge that is dangerous but how it is used. It gives healing, saving, constructive power, wonderful when it is within the reach of some people and destructive, harmful when it is within the reach of others. What is certain is that the lack of knowledge makes us all vulnerable and keeps us captive.